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How do Uniquely Sensitive People go to a Party?
Party? Uniquely Sensitive People?! Yes, it can happen. It
depends on the party, the place, the circumstance, the people,
and lots more. Let’s look at a few questions:
Who is throwing the party? Often who is throwing the party
makes a difference. Are they Uniquely Sensitive? Are they
outgoing, shy, quiet, loud, flamboyant? How well do you know
them? Will there be a mixture of different types of people?
Will you know anyone there?
Where is it being held? What’s the atmosphere like? Is it
a cozy space or industrial loft? Will there be food there?
What kinds of drinks? Can you sit comfortably?
Why are you interested in going? Do you really like the host?
Are you looking to connect with other like minded folks? Does
it sound exhilarating? It is a networking event? Do you just
need to get out of the house? What do you hope to get out of
attending?
By looking at these and similar questions you can start to see
what is appealing about the party, and how you might maneuver
your way around. Often parties have many types of people and
opportunities for connecting; the trick is to find the ones with
whom you are a fit.
Often when attending parties we’ll see the people hovering
around the food table, or those sitting in the comfy chairs.
When we see those folks we feel a kindred spirit; they are doing
what comes naturally to them. It just so happens that those
activities also come naturally to us, so we know they are people
with whom we will likely have something in common. Find the
people doing what makes sense to you, and gravitate toward them
chances are you’ll have something to talk about.
What happens if you start to feel overwhelmed? That’s
what bathrooms are for! Spending time in the bathroom (or any
quiet, out-of-the-way space), collecting your thoughts and
getting centered, can calm you down. You may need a moment or
two of silence before you rejoin the party. Or, you may
discover that you are done and it’s time to leave. Give
yourself permission to check in and know what is best for you at
that moment, and act on it.
Concerning taking your Uniquely Sensitive self to a party:
- Are you willing to let go of your preconceived notions about what it means to be sensitive and attending a party?
- Support yourself by allowing plenty of time to prepare, to get there & have a snack handy in case you need protein before food is served”and wear comfy shoes!
- Consider shifting your attention to someone else in the room introduce yourself to one new person and ask a question.
- What if, you when you sense you’ve had enough, you take a breath, find the host and ask if there’s any way you can be helpful? (Sometimes focusing on a task contributes both to your sense of balance and well-being in addition to shifting your energy.)
- It’s ok to attend a party even though you know you’ll only stay for a very brief period. Sometimes we Uniquely Sensitive People do best in very short chunks of time so we don’t get overloadedand, that’s oklove us, love your unique self and support others to do the same!
We hope this introduction to parties has been helpful. Let us know how
you maneuver at parties and your valuable tips. Email us with your
thoughts; we’d love to hear from you.
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